I genuinely believe life can be simple. We sometimes so overly complicate things that we get lost in the complexity of what we have created.
A person however might be that one exception; a person’s character is multi faceted and complex. If you've ever seen the film 'Shrek' as he explains to donkey ..."Ogres are like onions". This can also be attributed to people as well, we're also like onions. We have layers; some so readily exposed others so deeply hidden within.
We share these layers with the world in the manner we choose. With the relationships we form some get access to the more intimate layers we never thought of showing anyone. We entrust these people, we confide in these people.
I have experienced what it is to expose myself to someone, to confide in someone, a person you believe could do you no harm. I can sit here and tell you honestly that I do not regret it one bit!
However if by chance that relationship sours do not allow yourself to be DEFINED.
You have chosen to share yourself with someone, but what you choose to share could never fully encompass all that is within you. There might be layers you have yet to discover. The layers that were shared were but a snapshot in that moment of your life. We are not static beings, we are ever changing.
Our views change, our lives change, we physically change, always changing.
Those special connections when you're able to expose your "layers" are great. They make you grow. When those connections conclude (if they do), don't let them stump that growth.
See I've been put in a position once or twice to be defined, and I allowed it. It was dumb on my behalf but sometimes you have to go through certain experiences so they may teach you for better outcomes in the future.
At that time I wasn't so sure of where I was and who I was.
Today that has changed, today I have defined myself, and no one will be in a position to tell me otherwise!
I am proud of who I am, I know who I am, and I couldn't be more content with that.
So be the confident person I know you can be...