I am what some may call "nonconformist" I don't really care to follow the rules that have been given to me by society, I really believe that I may carve out different methods to living this life, both for myself and my daughter.
Being of this attitude sometimes causes rifts between my daughters mother and I . She is a great person, an absolute great mother, and a amazing role model for my daughter. She has a typical view of life one in which I do not disagree with, but one which I wouldn't want to live out with my daughter.
Seeing others do it
Through the internet I now see that I am not the only one with these unconventional methods of living. I have read about a family biking from North America to the the most bottom point of S.America, all together!
I have followed and interacted with a mother who decided it was best for her and her son to learn through exploring, and have been on the road ever since.
I have viewed a documentary that chronicles those who choose to live unconventionally, that have parted ways with the "typical path" and live a life on their terms, some of which involves a few families.
I have even had the pleasure of becoming friends with these amazing people!
Personally I envision a future with my daughter in which we learn by exploring. We get out into the world and learn from it and its people, a nomadic life. Calling only one place home, that place being Earth.
Now some may read this and completely agree with me, but I also know that some simply do not, my daughters mother falls with the ladder. There are moments when I envision a life in which my daughters mother was not so great, and would just let me take her without care. However that is wishful thinking and I personally don't believe in wishes or leaving things to fate.
As much as it frustrates me, in my position I must learn to compromise with my life. I don't regret this because I don't regret choosing who I had a child with, it just sucks sometimes to know that what you want out of life and for your daughters life cannot be fully realized.
Not being one for a pessimistic type of attitude I choose to alter my plans since I cannot live out the plans I foresee. At this point a nomadic life with my daughter seems like entering a parallel universe, in terms of becoming reality. So I have come up with an alternate way of life.
To quench this desire in some form I will be shaping the life of my daughter and I so that we may visit a new place each year, and this is a promise!
It's not what I want but for me it finds that happy middle ground : )
Although one could read this and profess how lucky I am that my daughters mother has not taken her completely, I say this. You must be aware of who you choose to bring into your life. Although I never envisioned this type of situation, I did fully envision the type of person I would be starting a family with. That person has not let me down one bit! She will always hold a special place in my life, and has given me the greatest joy of my life!
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