Intent to better yourself, intent to work with your faults, intent to realize that you are great just being you.
So now that we got that out of the way let me elaborate..
About a year back I took an interpersonal communication course. One day we began to delve into the subjects of the "many you's" an individual may portray. Stuff like the "you" presented in the work environment, the family you, the school you, the you in your own home etc.
In essence we have multiple facets to our character that we choose to share or not. Now you may believe this or not, as for me it clicked on some levels.
When I was younger I always thought of myself as knowing who I was & what I wanted in life. I set out on a journey at 19 to fulfill that quest. In doing so I slowly shed a me that wasn't truly me, but a shell of others beliefs bestowed upon me.
At the time I wanted to be financially secure, have a wife, have a child, be stable in life...You know the typical things engrained over & over as we grow. Other than the things I wanted accomplished I gave no thought to who I was. I knew sooner or later I would be a husband, a father, another typical "responsible adult" working for a better future (O' how it pains me to write this!).
Anyways in this frame of mind I did not value my capabilities. I valued what I could do or be for others that I forgot about myself. I never nurtured certain qualities I possessed. I just kept doing things I needed to do to fulfill the things I wanted to achieve.
The man that was living that life was a much different man then the one who writes this now. In essence a new me coming to be.
Today I write, today I design, today I am positive, today I'm appreciative, today I help etc. There are so many qualities that I see within myself, I can't help but to be content to where life has brought me. See all of these things listed (and those not) were not even on any spectrum of belief a couple years back!
Simply because I wasn't me. I was a me I thought I had to be.
The way this new me emerged wasn't by chance or fate, quite simply it was bound to happen. When we’re younger (in my case 19) I think many of us could agree that we think we know what life is, and we don't. Some of us are still immature, some of us think we know it all, and quite frankly were mistaken. I don't say I know it all today, but I can say without doubt I know who I am.
See it took a point in my life where I decided to take the helm of my own path. I chose myself for guidance than to so heavily rely on others. In doing so I have become a complete different person.
Before when I would stress about something small, I do not any longer. Before when I would let others make all the decisions, I do not any longer. Before when I would talk myself down from my capabilities, today I do not!
I've changed to the person I want to be.
You can also make that change. There is no special power, there is not right time. If you feel that life is not what you want it to be, CHANGE IT. If you feel you are something bigger & better than what you are now, BECOME IT. If you feel there is more to this life than what you do day in & day out, GO FIND IT!
You & only you can change yourself, no one else. You know what you want, you know your intimate thoughts, and you have your own intuition so follow it. Let others judge, lets others criticize, let others be exactly that, others than that which is you!
If change is what you seek than make that change. You can start this very second.
LIFE IS SHORT MAKE IT WHAT YOU WANT!